10 Tips on Working with A Custody Lawyer

While you are not legally required to hire a lawyer for custody matters in New York State, having one can significantly impact the outcome of your case. Studies show that parents with professional counsel often fare better than those who represent themselves. The key is knowing how to utilize their services for maximum benefit.

Read on for 10 tips on getting the most out of your custody attorney.

  1. Know When You Need A Custody Attorney

    Not all custody disputes require a lawyer. For example, simpler cases involving low conflict and amicable custody agreements may not require legal representation.

    But if your custody case involves complex issues like allegations of abuse, parental alienation, significant financial disputes, interstate divorce, or a contentious battle over parental rights, professional legal counsel is highly advisable. Knowing the complexity of your situation can help you determine if hiring a lawyer is warranted.

  2. Choose the Right Lawyer for Your Case

    Selecting the right custody lawyer can significantly influence the outcome of your case. Look for a lawyer specializing in family law and with experience with custody disputes like yours. Does your custody case involve religious conflicts, relocation, financial issues, or substance abuse? Be sure the custody attorney you hire has significant experience resolving similar cases.

    Recommendations from trusted friends or family, online reviews, and initial consultations can help you assess a lawyer’s suitability. Consider the lawyer’s communication style, expertise, and approach to handling cases. Ensure that the approach aligns with your needs and expectations.

  3. Understand the Scope of Your Custody Lawyer’s Role

    Before working with a custody attorney, it's crucial to understand what they can and cannot do for you. A custody lawyer advises you on legal rights and options, represents you in family court, and negotiates. They can help you prepare for child custody hearings, gather evidence, and provide expert testimony.

    However, custody lawyers do not have the right to make decisions for you or guarantee specific outcomes. Be sure to clarify the scope of your custody lawyer’s services in your initial consultations to avoid misunderstandings later on.

  4. Familiarize Yourself with Your Rights and Responsibilities

    Understanding your rights and responsibilities under the attorney-client agreement is vital to maximizing the benefits of legal representation. Custody lawyers have a duty to provide competent representation, maintain confidentiality, and act in your best interest.

    At the same time, as the client, you are expected to provide truthful information, meet deadlines, and follow your lawyer's advice. Reviewing the terms of your agreement will help you manage expectations and foster a productive working relationship.

  5. Understand Legal Fees and Payment Structures

    Legal representation for custody cases can become expensive, so make sure you understand the fee structure before hiring an attorney. Many custody lawyers charge an hourly rate, but some may offer a flat fee or a retainer arrangement.

    Clarify how your custody lawyer’s fees are calculated, what expenses are included, and how billing will be handled. Make sure you get a written agreement detailing these aspects to avoid surprises.

  6. Explore Payment Alternatives

    If the cost of a custody lawyer is a concern, explore various payment options. Some custody attorneys offer sliding scale fees based on your financial situation, while others may be open to payment plans.

    Additionally, you may qualify for legal aid services or pro bono representation if you meet certain income criteria. Discuss your financial options with potential lawyers to find a feasible solution.

  7. Prepare Thoroughly for Meetings

    To get the most out of your custody lawyer, come prepared to meetings with all relevant documents and information. This includes financial records, communications with the other parent, and any evidence related to the custody dispute. Providing comprehensive and organized information will help your custody lawyer build a stronger case on your behalf.

  8. Communicate Effectively

    Effective communication with your attorney is crucial. Be honest and transparent about all aspects of your custody case, including any concerns or changes in circumstances.

    Regularly update your lawyer on new developments and respond promptly to their requests for information or action. A collaborative relationship will enable your custody lawyer to advocate more effectively for your interests.

  9. Monitor Progress and Adjust as Needed

    Review the progress of your custody case regularly and ensure your lawyer is meeting your expectations. If you feel that your lawyer is not addressing your concerns or if there are significant changes in your case, discuss these issues with them.

    If necessary, consider changing attorneys. While it’s generally better to stick with one lawyer, sometimes switching can be in your best interest if you’re unsatisfied with their performance.

  10. Know How to Change Lawyers if Necessary

    Changing your custody lawyer midstream is possible but should be approached with caution. If you decide your current lawyer is not meeting your needs, research potential new custody attorneys and ensure a smooth transition.

    Notify your current lawyer of your decision in writing, and request that they transfer your case files to your new custody lawyer. Understanding the process can help minimize disruptions to your case and ensure that your new lawyer is fully informed.

Hiring a custody lawyer can be a pivotal step in navigating the complexities of family court. Understanding the scope of legal representation, knowing when to seek help, and choosing the right lawyer can boost your chances of achieving a favorable outcome.

Be proactive in managing your case, exploring payment options, and maintaining effective communication with your lawyer. If you need to change custody attorneys, approach the process thoughtfully to ensure a smooth transition.

For more in-depth guidance on handling custody disputes and working with your lawyer, consider reading our latest book, Cracking the Custody Code. This go-to resource provides valuable insights and practical advice on effectively navigating the custody court system.

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Karen Rosenthal

Karen B. Rosenthal is a partner and co-founder at matrimonial litigation firm Bikel Rosenthal & Schanfield LLP, where she brings 35 years of matrimonial law experience to bear in matters involving high-net-worth equitable distribution, contentious custody battles, and other high-stakes disputes. Certified as an Attorney for the Child and a frequent speaker on topics related to children going through high-conflict divorce, she has been recognized as a leading New York lawyer by Super Lawyers, Best Lawyers, Crain's New York Business magazine, and New York magazine.

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